When Someone Judges You, It’s Their Pain, Not You

👉 Release Judgment, Reclaim Your Power: Transform Pain into Freedom

Description:
What if every judgment you’ve faced wasn’t about you—
but a reflection of someone else’s unhealed pain?

In this transformative episode of The Soul-Led CEO Dr. Amen Kaur shows you how to release the sting of judgment, reclaim your self-worth, and step into freedom, abundance, and soul-aligned success.

By the end of this episode, you’ll learn how to alchemize even the most painful experiences into opportunities for growth, creativity, and wealth.

What you’ll discover:

• Why judgment is never about you—and how to stop taking it personally.
• Simple, science-backed techniques to regulate your nervous system and release survival patterns.
• How healing ancestral wounds unlocks sustainable, soul-aligned success.
• Practical steps to turn pain into empowerment and embody your highest potential.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Judgment Is Never About You
• 1:34 Judgment as Pain Wearing a Mask
• 2:56 How Judgment Disconnects Us from Self
• 5:57 Four Steps to Stop Taking Judgment
• 10:17 From Judgment to Freedom and Purpose

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

If someone ever judges you, it's never really about you. It's always about the unhealed pain, and if we react and judge them back, it's like you've caught the pain, like an infection or a disease. We've all been in those moments when someone's been judging us for our successes, or someone's nitpicking about how we're not keeping our kitchen tidy, or a colleague takes our idea that we've been saying for maybe years and repeats it and makes it like it's their own. Or maybe someone in your life is downplaying your successes because they're plainly jealous of them. In those moments we can feel really hurt, so betrayed, so angry at the injustice, and we think what's wrong with me? Like why am I feeling so yucky after being around that person? Or I'm not good enough? Or sometimes we can even know that, oh my gosh, it's really them and we can say why are they like this? And that's why this video is important, because by the end of this video, you'll know exactly how to stop taking other people's judgments personally and protect your energy from being infected by other people's pain, other people's wounds, and turn judgment into an opportunity for your own healing and liberation, to feel even better about yourself and you reconnect to your true self, the part of you that feels really alive, creative and free. So if you've ever felt weighed down by someone else's judgment or those sneaky, snide things they do keep watching, here's the truth. Judgment is always pain wearing a mask. Their criticism isn't about you at all. It's actually a reflection of their unhealed pain within them. And the truth is, judgment is like a disease. Someone cuts you down. It's a normal reaction that we will feel the pain and then our mask comes along, or our protective nature comes along and we might get angry and start saying things about them, in our own mind, or to them maybe, and then the cycle continues. It just keeps going round and round and it takes up a lot of energy until you choose to stop it and I know you want to stop it and you will stop it because you're listening to this video.

Speaker 1: 2:25

I used to believe I was a victim of other people's judgment. I have experienced toxic relationships and it's so hard because you have to come to terms with that. You have been abused, the people were unkind, unfair and I just had to live with it. And it's so hard to just live with it because there's that feeling of injustice. But then I really embodied this whole lesson and I realized I'm not a victim. Judgment actually originates somewhere else. It's someone else's pain that is being spread around and, yes, I understand it's easy to catch. But when you pause and really notice it and instead of reacting, you start to look inward and you really do the inner work. And when you do, you start to find your own pain. And this is the best part, because when you find your own pain, you heal it and you feel even better.

Speaker 1: 3:22

For example, I have felt judged as a parent many, many times. Or I felt judged for working at home and staying at home or working in the city as a partner of a 50-50 company. Underneath all of that, I was judging myself for not being at home with the children, and then I was judging myself for being at home and not working. There was another belief hidden underneath all of that, which was I don't feel good enough within myself. I'm not good enough. And when I traced it back, I realised it comes from childhood. That original wound comes from when I do something that's me, that's creative, I'm not good enough. As me and as children, many of us didn't feel good enough. But here's the thing that original wound of us feeling not good enough, even as a child, didn't start and originate with us. It came from someone else's pain and we caught it like a disease and we were more vulnerable to that as a child. And that hasn't been healed yet.

Speaker 1: 4:27

So when we feel judged, it doesn't just stay in our mind, it actually affects all of us, our whole being. The truth of the matter is, when we feel judgment, we actually lose connection with our soul, our spirit, that part of us that keeps us alive. Feeling connected, that is the spark of the creator of God, the infinite intelligence or the universe, whatever it is that you truly believe in that is living within us. And when we're disconnected, we literally forget who we are. And then painful thoughts take over I'm not good enough, the feeling of not feeling good enough, or shame or embarrassment, painful emotions are flooding in and our body reacts. Our nervous system gets triggered and it goes into fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Our old traumas get locked into our brain and our body. So judgment is like letting in poison. It poisons us and it blocks our creativity. It blocks our ability to express the divine, the universe, the infinite intelligence, the creator within us.

Speaker 1: 5:41

And here's the hard truth it is really, really difficult to let go of that protection mechanism and get to the pain. We can stay in anger, we can stay in judgment, we can stay pointing the finger at other people for a very, very long time. Fight, flight, freeze, fawn, judgment, hate they all feel safer than actually feeling the pain itself. So I really want to bring as much compassion and love to this. It's not easy to let go of the protection mechanism, the mask, but beneath all that protection is your true self, is that vulnerability, is that ability to connect with the creative side of you and connect back to who you truly are, and that reconnection back to who you are is the true healing. So really, let's take a moment here and now. Not tomorrow, not later, but now.

Speaker 1: 6:35

If it's safe and you're in a safe space, then close your eyes and just take a deep breath in space. Then close your eyes and just take a deep breath in and then hold for a little while, take another sip in and just sigh it out. Just let go think of something that you really want, something you really have dreamed of and you think is impossible for you. But it just keeps coming back. Is something you really have dreamed of and you think is impossible for you, but it just keeps coming back. Is something you really want? Now ask yourself is there a part of me that feels hesitant Because I might be judged or I might not be good enough, or what comes to mind? Be honest, maybe you think, oh, oh, that person will judge me, or someone will just pop into your mind and you feel it's not possible for me. Maybe it's a fear of what they might think.

Speaker 1: 7:36

Just notice and bring love and compassion to that part of you, because when you do, you're reconnecting to your true self. You're becoming your true self, who is so loving, so compassionate, so understanding and so wise. And by doing that you reconnect to your gifts, your talents, your purpose, and from that place you can then step into your creativity, your abundance, your freedom, not just for you, but all those people that are waiting for you to actually express your gifts. They're ready to receive your gifts and pay you for those gifts as an exchange of energy. Because it all boils down to what kind of frequency vibration you're holding, and if you're vibing at a different frequency, you're moving in a new way of being, like a new earth way of being.

Speaker 1: 8:36

So every time you find yourself judging someone else or getting annoyed. I just want you to catch yourself and then pause and then take these four key steps. Pause and name it. That's their pain, not mine. I don't know why I'm taking that on. I don't need to explain or validate or express myself. Number two see the wound behind their words and that will enable you to come at them with compassion rather than judgment and say I feel bad for them that they're still doing this protection mechanism. Then check your own trigger, what is actually unhealed within you. And four return to that child within and give love and compassion and understanding to that younger self. This will help you stop the infection. It will stop you taking on the disease, because that's how you can choose compassion instead of contamination. And this is where it really gets powerful. That person judging you. They're actually initiating your healing. They're actually helping you heal and become even freer and become even stronger and become even more powerful in your own self. Each time you can pause and reflect, they're making you stronger and you can step more and more fully into your confidence, into the truth of who you are.

Speaker 1: 9:54

If you're around someone that's toxic, you need to create space from them and then self-regulate. It's really, really important. You need to be able to create space to be able to do this healing work. So, whether it's that you go regularly for walks or you get out and meet other people for friends or you're in therapy, you need that. The truth here is here's a deeper truth in therapy. You need that. The truth here is here's a deeper truth.

Speaker 1: 10:17

No one can really judge you. The truth is they don't see your whole life. They're only seeing a part of a piece of the puzzle. If they actually saw everything, they would know that you're doing the best that you possibly can right now and there should be no judgment on you. It's easy to judge others, but because you don't have a full concept of what they're doing and what they're going through.

Speaker 1: 10:38

So next time judgment comes your way, don't take it on. It's not yours to take on. It's actually their pain. See it as their pain and use it to uncover your own healing. Walk away freer, lighter, more powerful. And if this resonates with you, I can dive even deeper. Where we look at the prosperity codes, where we look at how you can truly step into your purpose and become prosperous from it and you want to heal those trauma, money blocks, all those blocks, those childhood wounds, and if you're ready to take on that full transformation, then please check out the link below. You can book in a one-to-one and see, hey, is this the right thing. So click the link and then book in a one-to-one and we can discuss and remember. Their judgment is not your truth. And on that note I'm sending you so much love Till next time.